What do you want out of life? What satisfies you, what does it take to make you feel feel happy and contented?
When you’re lying on your deathbed, what kind of life do you want to be looking back on? What do you hope to experience in the months and days and hours leading up to death? When you’re looking back upon your life, what do you think will make you go, yeah, I lead a good life, a life I’m happy with. What do you think will bring you comfort and joy at the end?
These are questions that have occupied my mind since I was very young. I’m not so very young now, but not so very old either. And in my experience, for many people, the answers to these questions have very much involved SEX. Therefore one conclusion I’ve come to as a foundational truth is this: the world would be a better place if more people spent more time fucking and less time fighting.
(And of course the corollary truth: keep an eye on people who are trying to discourage fucking and encourage fighting – they’re generally up to no good!)
Sex is an amazing free gift given to us by nature, or, if you prefer, by our creator. It’s there to help us perpetuate our species, sure, but it does SO MUCH MORE for us too. It bonds us together in loving relationships, it bestows health benefits, it boosts self-esteem and combats depression, and it’s just plain FUN. It’s no wonder that every culture everywhere has its tradition of exchanging resources for sex. Sex is super valuable in making life better! And while it is a ‘free’ gift in the sense that every one of us has a body and our own unique set of sexual desires, most of us do long to share our sexual selves with other people.
That’s where problems can creep in. The biggest source of problems is arguably bullshit piled on by the aforementioned nefarious characters who favor fighting over fucking. But a lot of problems can arise between two people who sincerely love each other and want to please each other just because life happens: you get older, things ache, you’re tired, shit don’t work the way it used to.
Maybe one or both of you have realized you are into things you didn’t know how to express back when you were high-school sweethearts. The love is still there but people are complicated, organic, and constantly growing. That thing inside you that maybe was just a seedling 20 years ago might be a sturdy tree today.
Anyway all of this is just a long winded way of introducing myself. I’m a 50-something lady who’s a huge believer in SEX as a positive force in the world. I’m here to write about my own life – probably including some juicy details ;D – and my thoughts about life in general. I think way too much about everything, and I have an eclectic assortment of interests and experiences that have informed my thinking.
One of my biggest interests (outside of sex hehe) is gardening, and it’s something I spend a lot of time & thought on. So I’m sure I’ll natter on about my plant babies and other garden stuff. But this is obviously not your mama’s garden blog; expect me to get a lot dirtier, and dig a lot deeper, than the average women’s magazine.
